…”Who would we be without the history of those prior relationships? If we met 20 years ago, would we even be ready to be in a relationship with each other?”
Wow. I have been in a relationship now for—as of this month May 11th will be 26 years. He was/is my fourth husband. (What WAS I thinking!??)
Knowing now what I didn’t know then when we first met, I would have told him I wasn’t ready to get together so soon. I was barely 3 years sober and not quite divorced from 10 years with #3. So it would have been, (should have been), A hard no!
Now that we are over 20 years in the future. I would have waited to get to know him, and he me. He probably still would have wanted me, but I think I would have just not ever gotten married again. In fact, I know now I would not have! Now that I’m 71 and living on SS, our marriage is an arrangement of convenience. TMI. LOL! I have my own bedroom, he has his, and “Never the Twain shall meet.” The only thing we do together is watch netflix at night before I go to bed at 8:17. (Really LOL! I start to fall asleep at that strange time.). He stays up later and I never know when he goes off to bed.
But I get to come and go as I please, he does his thing, and It all works for us. But if I had it to do over—I wouldn’t.
What great food for thought! My hubby and I have talked about this. We are both on our third marriage, and he has often said he wished he would have met me earlier. However, I know I wasn't ready for him back then. He's a good man, stable, positive and always has my back - reminds me of my dad. I didn't want that years ago. I was into the bad boys, the excitement, and even the heartache. I would have passed him by. So I'm glad we finally met in our 50s, and are happily married for 17 years this September.
What a conversation! I guess if you start to unravel one line of thinking, the whole world is at your disposal! Love your sea spirals! Enjoyed your conversation. Thanks for sharing!!
I love this post! I like your boyfriend’s reasoning & thinking-it-through skills, too!
I also wish I could have met my boyfriend about 20 years ago. Well, more like 25 years ago now.
But you’re right, I maybe wouldn’t have been ready for appreciating him as much as I do now. Well, maybe I would. Or I would be me without the trauma because what he is like now is actually who I have always been looking for. Someone who is multi-talented (like me), kind and thoughtful, like me. And financially secure (which I am working at).
I love your spiral drawings & art! Love your SubStack name - “Pretty in Ink” and I also want to give a shout out to my own book coming out on June 1 - “How to Travel Through Time.” Because it applies to your theme here so I thought I would share. My SubStack has a new post about it coming out in about 2 hours - 5pm Central US Time, Monday, May 13.
Thank you for writing this delightful newsletter. I found you through Notes, I think, and have become a subscriber! I look forward to reading more of your newsletters & seeing more of your art! I am trying to get back into doing art and seeing your art will remind me to make my own. 💖
…”Who would we be without the history of those prior relationships? If we met 20 years ago, would we even be ready to be in a relationship with each other?”
Wow. I have been in a relationship now for—as of this month May 11th will be 26 years. He was/is my fourth husband. (What WAS I thinking!??)
Knowing now what I didn’t know then when we first met, I would have told him I wasn’t ready to get together so soon. I was barely 3 years sober and not quite divorced from 10 years with #3. So it would have been, (should have been), A hard no!
Now that we are over 20 years in the future. I would have waited to get to know him, and he me. He probably still would have wanted me, but I think I would have just not ever gotten married again. In fact, I know now I would not have! Now that I’m 71 and living on SS, our marriage is an arrangement of convenience. TMI. LOL! I have my own bedroom, he has his, and “Never the Twain shall meet.” The only thing we do together is watch netflix at night before I go to bed at 8:17. (Really LOL! I start to fall asleep at that strange time.). He stays up later and I never know when he goes off to bed.
But I get to come and go as I please, he does his thing, and It all works for us. But if I had it to do over—I wouldn’t.
Thanks for sharing Gail. I’m glad this resonated for you.
What great food for thought! My hubby and I have talked about this. We are both on our third marriage, and he has often said he wished he would have met me earlier. However, I know I wasn't ready for him back then. He's a good man, stable, positive and always has my back - reminds me of my dad. I didn't want that years ago. I was into the bad boys, the excitement, and even the heartache. I would have passed him by. So I'm glad we finally met in our 50s, and are happily married for 17 years this September.
Thank you Lynda! Appreciate you sharing this and happy for you. 😊
What a conversation! I guess if you start to unravel one line of thinking, the whole world is at your disposal! Love your sea spirals! Enjoyed your conversation. Thanks for sharing!!
Thank you Ashley! It has been a fun thread to pull at. 😊
Lol, love debate back and forth. You are a talented artist!!
Thank you Lori! 😊
I love this post! I like your boyfriend’s reasoning & thinking-it-through skills, too!
I also wish I could have met my boyfriend about 20 years ago. Well, more like 25 years ago now.
But you’re right, I maybe wouldn’t have been ready for appreciating him as much as I do now. Well, maybe I would. Or I would be me without the trauma because what he is like now is actually who I have always been looking for. Someone who is multi-talented (like me), kind and thoughtful, like me. And financially secure (which I am working at).
I love your spiral drawings & art! Love your SubStack name - “Pretty in Ink” and I also want to give a shout out to my own book coming out on June 1 - “How to Travel Through Time.” Because it applies to your theme here so I thought I would share. My SubStack has a new post about it coming out in about 2 hours - 5pm Central US Time, Monday, May 13.
Thank you for writing this delightful newsletter. I found you through Notes, I think, and have become a subscriber! I look forward to reading more of your newsletters & seeing more of your art! I am trying to get back into doing art and seeing your art will remind me to make my own. 💖
Thank you Jodi, I appreciate your kind words! And congrats on your book!
Thank you! ✍️
I would like a dress in the sea spirals 👗
That would be lovely! 👗
LOVE THE SEA SPIRALS!!!
Thank you Laura! 😊